I drink badly, and I have a lot of fun doing it (when I remember). That?s a lethal combination, and when you throw in my unfortunate discovery of White Claw?I can drink as many as I want and never feel full!?I flamed out with alcohol last winter.
On February 1, just as everyone else was celebrating the end of Dry January and just ahead of the Summer of the Claw, I swore off the seltzer. I figured I?d give myself one month (note: the year?s shortest) to reset. It wasn?t an easy 28 days, but when March 1 rolled around, I felt better than I?d felt in years. The chronic inflammation I had attributed to everything from gluten sensitivity to genetics was clearing. I saw the light, and there was no going back.
I thought sobriety would be lonely, that every Saturday night would be Netflix. I forgot the Brett Kavanaugh generation isn?t in charge of culture anymore (thank God).
Millennials and Gen Xers aren?t interested in swilling beer until they black out like we did in the ?80s. Sober is sexy?or, as hipsobriety.com sees it, ?sobriety is the new black.?
On Instagram, there are influencers such as @stylishlysober, @thesoberglow, and the darker @fucking_sober and hashtags like
#soberliving, #soberAF, and #sobercurious. Millie Gooch, who posts as @sobergirlsociety, encourages her nearly 60,000 followers with inspirational messages like ?Mocks not cocks? and ?Sobriety: a surefire way to improve your wellbeing and your Uber rating.?
Just like that, I?m a cool kid?with a huge range of new options on Saturday night (and beyond). I?m exploring elixirs made with raw cacao, maca, and horny goat weed at Tonic Herban Lounge just a few blocks from my home in downtown Boulder (I can walk home after imbibing, and it amuses me that I don?t need to). I can do yoga and shake it before dawn at a Daybreaker dance party (daybreaker.com) in Denver, one of 27 cities where the alcohol-free early morning rave pops up and invites people to ?sweat, dance, and connect with ourselves in community.?
I?m surely not alone in this realization that life is better without booze. Worldwide, alcohol consumption fell by 1.6 percent last year. Led by young people, heavy-hitting countries like Russia, Canada, Japan, and the UK are seeing drinking rates as well as tolerance toward intoxication decline. An international survey found that about a third of people wanted to reduce their alcohol intake because of everything from sexual regret and embarrassment to physical health. A 2018 survey found that nearly 40 percent of global consumers want to drink less for health reasons.
In the US, CNBC reports, 52 percent of adults are trying to lower their alcohol intake, and underage drinking has steadily declined in the last 10 years. But only 21 percent of US adults in a CivicScience poll said they had any interest in drinking less or not at all, and most of those were 21- to 34-year-old, vegan-leaning flexitarians who practice yoga and consume cannabis daily. Women, especially those in their 30s and 40s, are drinking more than ever.
Booze still rules for most Americans, and ?increased stress and demoralization? is actually pushing more women, minorities, and poor people to the bottle, according to a study published in JAMA Psychiatry. The national Institute for Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism reports that 17 million adults in the US are alcohol dependent, and the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says one in six binge drink?defined as drinking four or more drinks over two hours or until blood alcohol reaches 0.08?nearly once a week. For this White Claw guzzler, that definition is, well, sobering. I called that happy hour.
Giving up alcohol isn?t a hashtag for a lot of people. It?s not even a choice. As Sean Paul Mahoney writes on The Fix, a website about addiction and recovery, ?I didn?t get sober to be cool. I just got sober to stop dying.?
A Little Bit Addicted?
?Sober curious? became a thing after HarperCollins released Ruby Warrington?s Sober Curious: The Blissful Sleep, Greater Focus, Limitless Presence, and Deep Connection Awaiting Us All on the Other Side of Alcohol in 2018. Warrington also has a podcast, runs Club S?da NYC (featuring sober events like Kundalini Disco), and stages events (?Sober Curious: Choosing Sobriety for Focus, Presence, and Deep Connection? is February 14?16, 2020, at Massachusetts? renowned wellness retreat center Kripalu). Her take is that a lot of Americans might not have a ?problem? with alcohol but see it as getting in the way of their healthy lifestyles. ?We eat well. We exercise. We meditate,? the press release for Sober Curious states. ?So, why do we?still drink??
Warrington wants to know why the only people who don?t drink are the ones who can?t and asks, ?What if I am just?a little bit addicted??
Call me old school, but a little bit addicted sounds a lot like a little bit pregnant. I worry that people who shouldn?t will take the advice of John Costa, who writes on twentytwowords.com that being sober curious is like being bi-curious?you don?t always hook up with people of the same sex, and you don?t have to cut out drinking forever. ?Be sober half the time,? he writes, ?and sauced the other half.? He?s joking, but those are dangerous words for me. That?s the life I was living: sober by day + tanked by night = balance.
Like all disorders (and pretty much everything in our culture), alcohol use runs on a spectrum. I was at the end that spent hours upon hours researching whether drinking while on this antibiotic would really make me projectile vomit and scoffed at friends as they struggled through Dry January, Dry July, Sober September, and Sober October. I wasn?t interested in giving up drinking for any reason or any amount of time, until I had to give it up for life.
Warrington, who sees reducing alcohol intake as another step in the wellness revolution, is at the other end of the spectrum?and she is aware of the difference between recovering from alcohol addiction and feeling better during yoga. I hope all of her followers are, too, because the last thing most drinkers need is a loophole.
I want to believe the trend Warrington is leading toward spirits-free activities and thoughtfulness about alcohol?s role in our culture?where every ritual, celebration, loss, entertainment, and even sporting event is cause for a drink?is not a trend but a movement. That we?ll look back at ?mommyjuice? like we shake our heads at ?mother?s little helper? pills from the ?60s and ?70s. The infrastructure to support sobriety is being built, and public opinion is turning. After centuries of going hard, America is getting woke, not wasted.
Cheers to that.